Pam Taylor Award-winning American Roots Rock Artist Will Steal Your Heart

 

I had the opportunity to connect with Pam Taylor during her UK tour this August.  Not just once but twice! I feel like a lucky girl lol Well, what really happened is that the first interview I had with her, I accidentally did not record the vocals. Yacks! But despite her busy schedule and the difference in hours, Pam was able to connect with me again.  That is how humble and amazing she is.

Her positive, welcoming and warm personality is truly why she is where she is today.  Pam Taylor is an Award-winning American Roots Artist.  She is also a jewelry designer and maker. Check out her shop HERE on Etsy. Really amazing pieces.

Pam grew up in Lancaster, South Carolina. Her new Album that just dropped today Steal Your Heart is not her first. She released in late 2012, Hot Mess. This debut release hit #1 on Roots Music Report, #3 on Sirius XM BB Kings Bluesville, and #25 on the Living Blues Charts.  In late 2015, Dirty Southern Soul was out, and sold-out at the CD release show at the Evening Muse in Charlotte.

I fell in love with Pam for a lot of reasons. The portion of the Podcast is really just a taste of how wonderful Pam soul is.  In the summer of 2013, Pam hit a serious health roadblock.  She suffered from a ruptured disc in her neck, which left her with a paralyzed left arm and in severe pain.  Today, Pam is in great health, full of life and embracing her existence. She channels that energy through her music, live performances and through me! Speaking to her was so inspiring. She is so positive and welcoming.

Listen to my Podcast Episode #7 with Pam on SoundCloud or ITunes

 

 
 
 
 

Available via iTunes, Spotify, and Amazon

 
 
 

Breakfast in Bed with The Staycationers at The Garret East in New York City

A grown up slumber party! yes, that's what it was all about at The Garrett in New York City last Sunday.  Pajamas was the mandatory #ootd and it was really fun to see how fashionistas pulled together their looks. The Staycationers is the travel editorial series founded by Céline Bossart with the partnership of Taste The Style. It is such an amazing platform. 

At first, I was thinking of just wearing my regular pajamas but than decided to take a shopping trip to my local Marshalls to see what I could find. I was not disappointed at all. I found a cute pajama set for  $20. The polka dot pants paired nicely with my $16 stripe robe.  

I enjoyed some good booze and tasty bagels with a group of influencers, tastemakers and trendsetters.  Had a super cute makeover by Nomi Beauty and enjoyed some really good music. Now, let's not forget the most important part of the party! The Bed!!!! I loved the gray bedding by Loomstead. Super soft.  It was the best photobooth ever! Everyone was just so creative once they got on that bed! Every moment was captured by amazing Photographers Noa Griffel and Meredith Truax

 Photo Credits:  Noa Griffel  IG:  @noagriffel

Photo Credits: Noa Griffel IG: @noagriffel

 Photo Credits:  The Styled D'affaire  |  Christina Grasso  -  Jenny Albright  -  Martine Cadet

Photo Credits: The Styled D'affaire | Christina Grasso - Jenny Albright -  Martine Cadet

 Photo Credits:  The Styled D'affaire

Photo Credits: The Styled D'affaire

 Photo Credits:  The Styled D'affaire

Photo Credits: The Styled D'affaire

 Photo Credits:  The Styled D'affaire

Photo Credits: The Styled D'affaire

 Photo Credits:  Noa Griffel  IG:  @noagriffel

Photo Credits: Noa Griffel IG: @noagriffel

 Photo Credits:  Noa Griffel  IG:  @noagriffel

Photo Credits: Noa Griffel IG: @noagriffel

 Photo Credits:  The Styled D'affaire

Photo Credits: The Styled D'affaire

 Photo Credits:  Noa Griffel  IG:  @noagriffel

Photo Credits: Noa Griffel IG: @noagriffel

 Photo Credits:  Noa Griffel  IG:  @noagriffel  |  C É L I N E  

Photo Credits: Noa Griffel IG: @noagriffel | C É L I N E 

Until next time, I am making sure that my bed is as comfy as this one was!

 Photo Credits:  The Styled D'affaire

Photo Credits: The Styled D'affaire

 

 

 

 

Monte Mader CD Release Show at Rockwood NYC

 

"The art of producing good music from a cultivated voice can be achieved by many, but the art of producing that music from the harmony of a pure life is achieved very rarely".-  Gandhi

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I met pop singer-songwriter Monte Mader at her official CD release show at the Rockwood in New York City a few days ago.  I enjoyed how she connected with the audience. Before every song, Monte Mader shared what inspired her to write and produce the song.  Once she told the story, you could not help but feel what she felt singing the lyrics. Everything just clicked.  I was so inspired and I know the entire crowd was too following the screaming and loud clapping everytime she ended a song.

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Monte Mader is from Wyoming.  This Debut EP, SKYDIVE is a testimony of how she managed to bounce back from all that she went through.  Monte endured a lot.  From Bankcrupcy at an early age, bad breakups and most recently the sudden death of her father this pass year, Monte never gave up. In fact, during the performance at the Rockwood, she motivated the crowd by sharing with everyone that being in a bad place is a good thing and to remember that it is temporary. Never give up and just Dive!

Monte Mader is pure, authentic, though yet super sweet.  All the songs on her EP are really great but my ultimate fav has to be Skydive.  It's so motivating and inspiring.  It truly embodies what life is all about.  Monte Mader is pursuing her dream and wants you to do the same. Her music is uplifting.

Check out Monte Mader website:  MonteMaderMusic.com

Monte Mader EP, Skydive, is now available on:

ITunes - http://apple.co/2rlgEQV

Amazon - http://amzn.to/2rDMs3b

Sadie's BlendorFest: Where Bloggers and Vendors Connect!

 Connecting with Truly Rachel | www.trulyrachel.com

Connecting with Truly Rachel | www.trulyrachel.com

As a Digital Content Creator and Influencer, my passion is connecting my blogging platform with brands and creative entrepreneurs to help them articulate their values and who they are to potential and existing clients. 

I started my Digital Media presence 3 years ago.  I participated in many vendor fairs selling my handmade jewelry line . My blog has given me the platform to expand my brand even more and this is why Sadie's Blendorfest made complete sense.  This event connected inspired Bloggers with vendors all in one place.

The event took place at the Rock n'Joe Coffee Bar in Union, New Jersey.  I had a chance to meet and greet some of the vendors and hearing about their amazing products. Seeing entrepreneurs representing their brands and speaking about their items inspires me so much.  I enjoyed hearing about their products and how they actively look to expand their customer reach through digital marketing.

It's simple but it is not easy to be an entrepreneur. Life gets in the way.  There is only 24 hours in a day.  However, Sadie's BlendorFest reassured bloggers and vendors that it is all about connecting and networking with each other to help market each other's brands.

As part of the Blogger Q & A Panel, I had the opportunity to share some of my stories and tips that I have learned along the way.  How do I create a balance in my life? What is important to know about blogging before taking the plunge? What do I love the most about blogging? were some of many questions that I answered alongside my fellow bloggers.

When you position yourself with like minded individuals, you will learn so much more.  I left Sadie's BlendorFest motivated, inspired and full of knowledge.  As an entrepreneur, you cannot stop learning and I went home with lots of tips and creative ideas to apply to my brand. Here are some pics! Remember to watch the video too. It's a little over 10 minutes long.  Link at the end of the post.

 Sadie's BlendorFest Blogger Panel:  Martine Cadet ,  The QB ,  Jenna Firshein ,  Sunday Shay ,  Lillie Morales

Sadie's BlendorFest Blogger Panel: Martine Cadet, The QB, Jenna Firshein, Sunday Shay, Lillie Morales

 JEWELRY/ACCESSORIES: Yvette Tay-Taylor is an Independent Consultant | www.traciynnjewelry.net/92561

JEWELRY/ACCESSORIES: Yvette Tay-Taylor is an Independent Consultant | www.traciynnjewelry.net/92561

 NATURAL PRODUCTS: Jessica Pacheco is the Owner and Founder of Peche | www.pecheskin.com

NATURAL PRODUCTS: Jessica Pacheco is the Owner and Founder of Peche | www.pecheskin.com

 APPAREL: Brand - J.Vene'Sip Fashions www.jvenesio.com

APPAREL: Brand - J.Vene'Sip Fashions www.jvenesio.com

 Connecting with Beverly Nataniel | Independent Scentsy Consultant

Connecting with Beverly Nataniel | Independent Scentsy Consultant

 FRAGRANCE: Beverly www.beverlym.scentsy.us

FRAGRANCE: Beverly www.beverlym.scentsy.us

 Connecting with Truly Rachel | www.trulyrachel.com

Connecting with Truly Rachel | www.trulyrachel.com

 JEWELRY & ACCESSORIES: Truly Rachel | www.trulyrachel.com

JEWELRY & ACCESSORIES: Truly Rachel | www.trulyrachel.com

 Connecting with Samantha Harding 

Connecting with Samantha Harding 

 HANDMADE: Samantha Harding www.sista-dolls-vibrations.com

HANDMADE: Samantha Harding www.sista-dolls-vibrations.com

 Checking out Magnolia and Vine for the first time!

Checking out Magnolia and Vine for the first time!

 Magnolia and Vine Style Consultants! www.mymagnoliaandvine.com/lpajaromorales

Magnolia and Vine Style Consultants! www.mymagnoliaandvine.com/lpajaromorales

 NJ Digital Media Center Interview - 

NJ Digital Media Center Interview - 

5 Things I Learned While Dealing With the Sudden Death of My Father in Haiti

Today is Flag Day in Haiti. As a result every year, Haitians all over the world celebrate their culture and heritage. For the last 20 years of my life, it has not been a celebration for me at all. In fact, May 18 has been the worst calendar day for me.

I love my home country Haiti a lot. I love everything about it. But I realized that my bitter sweet love for being Haitian comes from the anger of the memory of what this country left me with.

It was December 30th 1996 when at 3 am I heard a huge knock on the door. My mother, my older sister and I were the only ones fast asleep in the house. My father was visiting my other sister in New York who was attending college at the time.

I woke up frantic. I ran to my mom and saw armed men in front. It was dark. These were the longest 20 minutes of my life. During the entire time, I was praying in my heart. Asking God to protect me, my sister and my mom. I blacked out. All I can remember are the tears falling down my face when one of the man approached me trying to slip his hands under my shirt. I begged him not to do me any arm. I told him to please not to do what he was attempting to do to me and I closed my eyes and prayed. God heard my prayers and one of the other man that was breaking everything in the house looking for money and any valuable things in the house to steal called him and he left me.

Complete silence... in the dark ... my mother, sister and I just started crying. Trying to understand what had just happened to us.

My father heard about what happened and was extremely upset. When he returned to Haiti from visiting my sister in New York, I hugged him and cried to him. He apologized to me and told me that this will never happen to me again. He made a promise to me that no one should ever hurt me.

It was May 15th 1997. 5 months later. 3 am in the middle of the night. I heard a huge knock. It was dark. A group of man with firearms walked into the house. My father, my mother, my sister and I all ran into my bedroom and locked the door. My father told me to jump over the window and just run. By the time I jumped over, a gun shot missed me. They had surrounded the house. I fell right on my back in the bedroom. We were not going to be able to escape. One of the man broke my bedroom door, pulled my mother and my father into the living room and asked them to lay flat...head down. It happened so fast.

At that point, I noticed that they had not seen my sister and I so I took my older sister's hand and ran into the bathroom to hide. I put my hand inside her mouth so she wouldn't scream. I peaked over the bathroom door and saw my parents legs and the men surrounding them with guns pointing at mom and dad. My heart was racing so fast. I didn't know what to do. I couldn't even make out what they were saying. And then I heard it. The gun shot. And then I saw it. The pool of blood. And then I heard it. My mother saying in creole "They shut Albert ...Jesus..They shut him..."

My Father Albert Frederique

Fast forward on May 18th 1997 , 1:00 am. My mother wakes me up at my aunt's house to tell me that my dad will not make it out of his coma and that he was gone forever.

It's OK to cry: Face it Again

After my father's sudden death, I was just numb. My only focus was to educate myself because learning was very important to him and I didn't want to disappoint him. I barely made it through high school. Landed in the States and only had one thing in mind: Make Him Proud.  I attended college full time while working a full time job. Giving up was never in my vocabulary.

I never cried. I never mourned. I did not want to. I was avoiding to cry. I was afraid to experience the pain. I tried to avoid any means possible not to travel to Haiti. When I did go, I went for no more than 3 days to family functions and back. This for over a decade until my husband did an intervention and booked a trip to Haiti and arranged for me to go back to the house and to visit my father in the cemetery. I cried for all the years that I never cried. I was 16 years old again fighting the anger that I had inside. My hands were sweating driving the streets of Haiti. Bringing back all of these memories was just like someone stabbing my heart with a sharp knife.

With my Father Albert Frederique in Africa

After that week long trip, I felt so good. I had released all of the tears I was holding on to for so long. I still cry today because I miss him so much. But my tears today are tears of joy. Tears of celebration of being his daughter.

It Doesn't Get Better Overtime

Friends and Family would tell me that it would get better overtime. It got worst. As I continued my life accomplishing huge milestones, I would cry even harder. Graduating from College, graduating from Grad school, getting married, giving birth, accepting a huge promotion at work....none of these events were easy for me.

I wanted to share them with him. Hear his thoughts. See him smile, cry, congratulate me, and walk me down the aisle.

The older I get the harder it gets. But today, I decided to switch my mindset and instead I choose to smile when I think of the things he would say to me when big moments in my life happen.

Who You Surround Yourself With is Vital

Put God first and the ones that love you and care for your well being most next.

I realized over the years that it is not about quantity but instead it is about the quality of the people around me that matters most. The vibration of the energy in the Universe does not lie.

When I decided to let God take control of my life, my circle of friends got very small and God edited down the people that were important to my growth and the ones that were not.

Today, as I continue to live this life, I am thankful and grateful for the new relationships that God has created for me and the ones that have stayed from day 1. Without them, I don't know that I would be able to have the strength nor the will to start a business, be a mom, a wife and work a full time job. Every time I feel like breaking down, I have someone texting me, emailing me or calling me without me even reaching out.

Surround yourself with the ones that care for you the most. Period.

You Will Feel Better When You Celebrate

When I reminisce about my father, I reminisce the good times. The moments when he made me laugh. The times that he thaught me something. When I celebrate him, I feel his spirit alive and I know that he is manifesting in everything that I do. I used to look at old pictures and cry. Now I smile and I can hear his voice when I see his pictures around the house and on my desk at work.

With my Father Albert Frederique

Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself

What we feel is what we get. I used to want to associate all of my failures and obstacles because of what had happened to me in Haiti during those 2 nights.

I chose not to feel pity anymore and instead, God has thaught me that what happened in my life was needed for my personal growth and I accepted this rule. I no longer feel sorry for myself and I don't one anyone else to feel sorry for me.

My desk At work with pictures of my dad and kids

All and all, we all have a story deep inside that is untold. I chose to tell you mine in hopes to inspire you to conquer your pain and to put God first. The strength and passion that I have today is only because of what happened to me. I have accepted this and I am proud of it. I thank God for making me go through what I went though and building me up to be able to now publicly share my story.

Take your obstacles as blessings. I know it is hard to believe, but trust me, it is the best thing you could ever do for yourself. Today, I feel light, I feel stronger, I feel armed and ready to live my life to the fullest until I get to meet my daddy again and chat all about it.

Thank You Chrystelle Bouchereau, Vanessa Chery-Mellon, Dena Lancry, Elizabeth Memnon Desgrottes, Alexandra Outten, Allysha Canter, Daphne Valerius, Sherry Swan, Kara Vaval Ferrier for always checking up on me, sending me positive vibes and giving me that extra push when I don't even look for it.  Thank You to my husband, Fitzreynold Cadet for being patient with me in understanding what I went through and healing me.  Thank You to my kids, my sisters and my mom for always reminding me that I am here for a reason.  Thank You to my cousin, Fabienne Jean-Baptiste Leger and Cousin-in-law aka my BFF Vanessa Thezan Leger for always finding the time to connect no matter the distance. Thank You my Lord for giving me the strength to be able to type this post and finally express the core reason why I am heading the direction that I am heading because I chose to surrender to HIS love and obey.

I tend to look too close to the mirror sometimes and if it wasn't for these souls I would not have it in me to care about living after this tragedy. Today I am free and I am stronger.

Social Media Personal Life and Social Media Business Life: How To Balance Both?

Most people use social media for searching, not only socializing. I am pretty sure that if you do not have all social media platforms Apps that exist today on your phone, you at least have 1. I asked myself earlier this year and shared on one of my Facebook Live (video is at the end of the post) how important it is to balance your lives on social media.  Social Media is part of our daily life but you must know how to balance your personal and professional lives within it in my opinion to avoid social media peer pressure.

 

Without a doubt, joining social media platforms is the best way to connect with others.  Social media networking sites spread information faster than any other media. People use social media as a number one communication tool, but choosing the right channel is critical and it all depends on what you are looking to extract from it at the end of the day.

There is a huge difference between Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn etc....So, how do you use Social media platforms? To Decide which social media channel will best serve you, I've identified which platform that can integrate your personal life or your business life the best.

 

Facebook

  • Best Social Media Platform for your business

By far, Facebook is one of my favorite social media outlets because it helps you clearly separate your business from your personal life.  Earlier this year, I decided to keep my Facebook FanPage as my business Facebook page as it should be.  I used to share my Facebook Fanpage posts to my personal Facebook page to gain awareness in the beginning and decided to stop.  I figured if my connected Facebook friends are interested in my business brand, they will like and engage straight from my Facebook fan page. No need to double dip here and waste the energy on my side.

 

  • Best Social Media Platform for your personal life

That is only if you keep track of it.  What I mean by that is, you need to ensure that you connect with real people.  The last thing you want to happen to you is to be Facebook friends not so real friends. People you would generally not deal with on a regular basis.  I have taken the time to unfriend A LOT of people. I still have an entire list to go through. Just haven't been so active lately. In my opinion, Facebook should connect you with your family and closest friends. People you'd actually call or email directly at least once a year.

 

Pinterest

  • Best Social Media Platform for your business

I am so surprise when I meet small businesses and find out that they are not on Pinterest.  This is by far one of the best social media outlets that will give you the converted traffic that you need for your website  hands down.  As long as you do  it the right way that is. The part I like the most is that Pinterest is able to connect you with organic followers that are really interested in your niche.  It's really great!

 

  • Best Social Media Platform for your personal life

If you are creative, love to decorate, experience DIYs and more, there is no reason why you should not be on Pinterest. You can find so many ideas and create boards that you collaborate with others with pinned images that you like.  Pinterest to me is the visual Google social media platform for all things creative and inspirational.

 

Twitter

  • Best Social Media Platform for your business

Twitter is not dead.  If you are in business, I would strongly suggest that you stay active there.  I have interacted with Target, Home Depot and many other major brands on Twitter.  Unlike Instagram, when you tag a brand, the response from them on Twitter I find is quicker and more engaging. 

 

  • Best Social Media Platform for your personal life

I probably would of had a twitter account if I did not have a business.  It is a good platform to share current events, discussions and have a more close and personal interaction with the brands you appreciate the most.

 

LinkedIn

  • Best Social Media Platform for your business

I have to be honest. I completely underestimated LinkedIn.  I've been in the Corporate world for over a decade and when I started my business I never looked at LinkedIn as a social media platform to use.  While Instagram gives you the most opportunity to reach potential customers, LinkedIn on the other hand connects like minded businesses within your niche.  LinkedIn is the virtual way to attend a business networking event in my opinion.

 

  • Worse Social Media Platform for your personal life

LinkedIn is all about business.  I would strongly not recommend to post pictures of you and your friends at a basketball game or any of that sort.  If you are not using it as a business, you are most likely using LinkedIn because you are looking for a job.  So, keep it professional in there.

 

Instagram

  • Best Social Media Platform for your personal life only if....

You use it the right way.  If I was not in business, I probably would of had a private Instagram account and would of been following brands that I like to find out about their new products, special promotions and/or get inspiration.  I would probably not have anyone following me as I would most likely never post. Just like Pinterest you can curate and collect all of your favorite posts into collections. I've created collection with food photo ideas, landscape design ideas and much more.

 

  • Best Social Media Platform for your business

Instagram is the best place for businesses to be.  It is an advertising vehicle and promotional magnet.  Because of the strong visual/photos, businesses can grow their engagements tremendously and turn followers into real customers.  You will find a plethora of articles online discussing the science behind Instagram best social media marketing strategies, from using the right hashtags to boosting your engagement.

 

Kaderique Digital Content Creator

Create a social media platform that integrates who you are and what your intentions are.  If you are a business, create a Facebook Fan Page and create a Business Instagram account.  If you are in it for total entertainment and connecting with amazing communities by all means engage and share your personal likings with friends and family.  Otherwise, avoid social media all together if you are not sure how to manage how to use it and separate personal vs business activities.

 

Are you a lifestyle fashion, travel, fitness or food blogger? A photographer, inspiring Artist or Social influencer? Leave the Instagram engagement boost up to me and worry about pushing more content.  Get busy elevating your brand while I take care of your Instagram engagement and direct truly organic likes and genuine comments to boost up your visibility to potential brands and customers.  

For My Business Readers: 

European Retailer Primark Opens in Staten Island, NY

I love fashion a lot and I love it more when it is not expensive.  I am a very active buyer and seller on Poshmark which I talked about on my business blog. But when Refinery29 reached out to me to come check out the new Primark location in Staten Island, New York I was so excited! Why? Well because when I visited the website I could not believe the prices and the offerings!

Primark is all about fast fashion.  Primark is a European clothing chain. Now they decided to hit the States and let me tell you this is a REVOLUTION!!!! Now it's all about Primark USA.

This is my Navy look. All by Primark, including my heels.  Top: $17, Pants: $17 and Heels: $10. Yes this total outfit cost me less than $50!!!!! Do you like it? I am sure your first question is: How is the quality? My answer: Very good.  

Martine Cadet Lifestyle Blogger Styling Primark Outfit
Martine Cadet Lifestyle Blogger Styling Primark Outfit
Martine Cadet Lifestyle Blogger Styling Primark Outfit
Martine Cadet Lifestyle Blogger Styling Primark Outfit

You cannot purchase online. You can look up but must go to a Primark store to buy.  The inventory is always changing. If you find one style expect to see it in like 5 different colors.  There's something for the entire family, You will find beauty and even home decor items. 

Martine Cadet Lifestyle Blogger at Primark in Staten Island New York

I have so many more outfits to share........I love me some Primark

This is Why I left Style Collective.

I was 3 years into starting my entrepreneurial journey while still working my day job and being a mom. I've met incredible entrepreneurs throughout the way and it has been a ride for sure.

The one thing I can assure you that I have learned during all this time and still today is that you absolutely CANNOT do it alone.  There is only a handful of people unfortunately that understand this.  I say it all the time: Creativity has no Competition.  But the truth is, you will sadly find "One Hit Wonders" along the way when it comes to building a business. 

It is critical, in my opinion, that if you are an entrepreneur you must seek 3 things:
1. Support
2. Mentoring
3. Resources

Style Collective is a group of like minded women that are in it to win it together.  Did you hear that? TO-GE-THER! yes that is correct.  

 Photo Credits:  Boris Shabovta

Photo Credits: Boris Shabovta

When I was with my SC Sisters I always felt my best.  We supported one another, empowered each other and just enjoyed being able to share the same challenges when it comes to building our brands.

 Fabulous Blogger Jenny and I sharing a warm hug! Love Her check out her blog www.jennythevoice.com - Photo Credits:  Boris Shabovta

Fabulous Blogger Jenny and I sharing a warm hug! Love Her check out her blog www.jennythevoice.com - Photo Credits: Boris Shabovta

Style Collective was and I am sure is still filled with amazing resources.  Everything you ever needed to know about making your blogging passion a real business is all in there.  There is so much to take in.

 With my style collective sister and amazing personal stylist  Susan  Photo Credits:  Boris Shabovta

With my style collective sister and amazing personal stylist Susan Photo Credits: Boris Shabovta

Style Collective Member
 
 

I made many genuine friendships…had my cute little badge….made me feel so official….But it happened….

 
 

That moment when you feel “stuck” and not sure what you are building anymore. The shiny objects are so bright that you forget the reason why you even started in the first place. I enjoyed attending the really fancy events and dinners but after that, I had no real profitable business to come home to and I needed the time off to figure it all out.

This is how my agency started. Because I took the break to find clarity within myself and really embrace my zone of genius, I am proud to be managing a business that is helping others and me doing it all with joy.

I am very grateful that I had the time to spend with my SC sisters because I learned a lot about myself. It is a wonderful community.

WATCH: Is there such Thing as the Perfect Relationship?

 

Is there such thing as the perfect relationship? 

This is my husband. The love of my life for the past 16 years. Him and I are sharing what we call our C.P.R. relationship survival guide. 

Do you have one? Let's chat guys and inspire each other that there is still hope for good loving.

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Why do People go to the Gym?

I only stepped into the gym for the first time 5 years ago when I had my son, my second child.  I lasted for less than a week.

Just got too busy with a newborn and a demanding job at the time.

Just this past week, I thought why not explore the services our local YMCA membership is providing us? Yes, the truth is we signed up for the kids to enjoy the pool....

Took 2 cycling classes and a Zumba intense class.   I had no idea I was soooooo out of shape.  OMG!!! I am so sore just typing this blog post right now guys. But I have to say, as much as it hurts my body feels amazing.

So why do people go to the gym? I am sure they all have a reason. My reason is to take care of my body and give my heart some love. 

Whatever it is that you have been putting on the side to do, just do it.  Make it a priority and you will find the time to do it. 

Do you go to the gym? 

I had to Quit Coffee

I've been suffering from chronic headaches and really painful cramping during ovulation. My doctor has been telling me to decrease my intake of caffeine as a result to help alleviate these issues. I never took action until now.

I started drinking coffee back in college. Rushing to the bus to make it on time to class.  Needed another cup mid day to get me through work.  You name it. I would drink coffee like it was my life saver. 

Now that I haven't had my caffeine fix drinking 5 cups of coffee for the past couple of days, I am realizing that it was all about how I was perceiving what it was doing to me.  Felt like "peer pressure" in a way. To me.  Don't get me wrong, I love the smell of fresh ground coffee early in the morning. But other than that, it does not really do much.

I spent 2 days researching online how I could take this habit out of my lifestyle and I remembered having Chai Tea in India for the first time for breakfast and falling in love with it. I know you must be thinking, really Martine, where have you been living all this time and you never knew about Chai Tea?!?!? Well, the truth is I knew about it but I perceived it like another blend tea.

I was completely wrong.  It is the best decision I have ever made.  The spices, the smell ...awakes the same senses coffee did to me.  I went crazy in the supermarket looking for the best Chai Tea. I even went to my local Indian spice market to find just the perfect one.

I found out that Chai Tea does have caffeine. However you would have to drink 3 cups to replace the same intake of caffeine you'd get in a single cup of coffee. Pretty amazing right?

I brew mine 5 to 6 minutes.  Yes, I like it that strong.  It's my new cup that gets me going in the morning and I no longer have a mid day caffeine fix need.

You too you can decrease your intake of coffee caffeine.  Any spicy tea such as perpermit or any Black tea such as Chai tea like I did are great options.

The Old Has Gone, The New is Here- 2 Corinthians 5:17

Another year has gone by guys can you believe it? I honestly can't.

It's funny how I remember when I was a child thinking that adults were crazy when they said time flies. I just didn't get it. Now I truly do. 

Where ever you are in your life right now, this is the rebirth time. This is the time everyone sets goals and resolutions. But let's be honest here, how many of us do actually go back mid year to check our progress? 

Life just has a way of turning itself around that no one can really predict what the future will bring us. All you can do is continue to be the best that you can in all that you do.

Remove everything that is you feel is toxic.

I know it's hard to do especially with social media and all that is on TV. BUT you can control that. If it makes you feel a certain type of way when you scroll down your feed...UNFRIEND...UNFOLLOW or just DELETE YOUR ACCOUNT. Like and follow accounts that fulfill you not destroy you.  I did and it feels AMAZING.

Count your blessings. 

Listen. No one is perfect. What you have that you think bothers you is what someone else wants. Everyday be thankful and grateful for what you have because in less than a split second it could all be gone. I have been through this in my lifetime.  Lost many that were close to me. It is hard to accept I know. But you have to move on, look around and say THANK YOU!

Stop comparing yourself to others

Trust me I know you do. I've done it but decided to stop.  My life is my own. It's evolving at the rate that it is because it's mine. Own yours. Be accountable for it. Why should you idolize anyone else but yourself? What good will that do to you? You are unique.  People will come and go in your life but the ones that are loyal will remain.

Everyday should be a fresh start. Not just because it is a new year.  Everyday when you take a fresh breath of air, remember all that you have.  My father used to tell me: "There are no problems that exist. There are solutions to problems". Put your God first. Whatever your religion beliefs are, praise it.  The Universe is greater than us. 

I wish you lots of health, success, love, security, support, loyal friends and eyes to open your heart.

Thank you for being with me all along and if you are just joining me? Thank you for that. I am truly blessed to know that there is something in me that inspires and sparks certain Je ne sais quoi in your soul.

Thanks Loves!

 

 

 

 

#marriageworks...only if...

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This weekend, my husband and I celebrated 12 years of marriage.  The only reason why I decided to share our celebration is because I want to inspire others to know that #marriageworks ! Now listen to me clearly: IT DOES NOT HAPPEN OVERNIGHT!!! I am a strong believer that a strong marriage only exists when you have a strong spiritual relationship.  

Every marriage has challenging times.  It is HOW you handle the challenging times will define your relationship.  Don't listen to negative vibes.  Surround yourself with the people that support your love and understand your marriage growth.

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Put God First

Communicate

Respect Each Other

Be Loyal

Pray Together

 

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Learn to listen to each other and you will evolve personally but together. This is the 12th time he surprised me and made me cry.  He does it all the time.  Why? because I always take the time to tell him what I like and he always listens.  He tells me all the time what he likes and I listen.

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Simplify....don't overthink it. 

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Create memories that will last for a lifetime.  Sing together for all I care...like seriously.  What is the point if you are with someone and you are not enjoying their company???

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He did it again and I pray and Thank our God everyday when things are great and even when things are bad that we are blessed for the union he created.

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I am already anxious to see what he has in store for next year!!!! 

#marriageworks only if you

Let God First!

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How to Win in 2016?

These women have the drive, the passion, the skills and everything in between when it comes to being an entrepreneur.  

It was an intimate event. We were like best friends chatting about the challenges, wins, failures of running a business and of course we talked about our hair!  It was uplifting, impressive and most importantly it was comforting to be amongst a crowd like this one.

Keisha Reeves - Founder of Keirenae Hair and Skin

Keisha Reeves is the Founder of Keirenae Organic skin and hair care line. Each of her products contain simple ingredients that can be used on both hair and skin. Keisha is continuously evolving her brand.  From showcasing her products at the recent International Hair show to hosting this amazing event all at the same time, Keisha definitely is on track to win in 2016.

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Keisha Reeves - Founder of Keirenae Hair and Skin

 

With Hair, Fashion, Beauty Queen Janae nae2curly

nae2curly Janae - Detroit Hair Vlogger and Social Media Influencer

Janae shared that one of the most important ways to win when you are in business is to truly be you and to love what you do.  I could not agree more.  When Janae speaks, she speaks from her heart.  She is honest and humble.  I had the greatest pleasure to chat with her in person and she recharged my batteries for sure with great business advice.

With Spencer St Fleur Wellness Coach |Nutrition |NaturalHair |Blogger |Brand Influencer |CrossFit

Spencer St Fleur Wellness Coach |Nutrition |NaturalHair |Blogger |Brand Influencer |CrossFit

Spencer St Fleur is the prime example that one can pursue anything that their hearts desire.  She is a Wellness Coach, a Blogger, a Cross Fit Trainer...yes all of this and more! She has energy that you cannot ignore when you meet her.  Spencer believes in one's Purpose and shared with the group that you have to have a WHY because that is what will keep you going as you evolve in whatever journey you are in.

With Creator of napturaldivas2adore

 

Creator of napturaldivas2adore

You know that quote that says She believed She Could, So She Did...Well napturaldivas2adore showcased this at the event.  She mentioned that with the love of God, determination and belief, anyone can win in what they truly love.  She never thought in a million years that her hair would take her this far.  But she believed, she trusted God and went for it! napturaldivas2adore is winning! 

This event was really great. I met new faces and familiar ones too.  Chrisie owns a plus size online boutique.  Her assortment is trendy, fashionable and very well priced. Check out her website http://chrisiestyles.com

With Chrisie Founder/Owner of Chrisie Styles Boutique

Up Close and Personal with Tiffany Evans

Smart, Humble, Loving, Mother, Entrepreneur, Dancer, Actress, Wife, Songbird.... This is everything that Tiffany Evans is and more. Tiffany is a true inspiration.  That moment at Star Search when she was only just 10 years old, defined everything for her and she has not stopped building her amazing skills into a successful business since.

Tiffany Evans musical roaster includes Grammy winning R&B singer Ciara , Rapper Bow Wow.

Today she releases her new EP "All Me" including feature with Singer, Rapper, Songwritter Fetty Wap "On Sight".

Tiffany Evans is back you guys! Super exciting. Watch the full interview on my YouTube Channel or Click on Link at the end of the post.

Hip Hop Conference

 

Remember, I am Fanatique of everything that is awesome. So when I was invited to join the Press group for this year's Hip Hop Press Conference, I did not hesitate and accepted. I listen to all types of music and most importantly I love people that are focused in their artistic craft. As a handmade Jewelry Designer myself, I always love to meet people in the creative field.

The event took place at Mr. Adams Steakhouse in Newark, NJ. Perfect atmosphere for an afternoon of networking, music and learning. Turn tables were up and in no time the place was full of energy.

The Hip Hop conference was created by CEO, Terrance Bankston.  His mission is to promote cultured values, collaboration and integration amongst artists, Hip-Hop movements, Press, Media and Production.

   Terrance Bankston|  CEO Hip Hop Conference| Twitter

Terrance Bankston| CEO Hip Hop Conference|Twitter

The panel of speakers included major Hip Hop influencers such as – Money Carsin who has been a ghostwriter since 2001 working with various industries artists. He has also collaborated with artists such as Sisqo, Redman, Jeremih, and Fred The Godson just to name a few (source) – Nikki Walker Entertainment and Lifestyle Public Relations guru – Keith Harrison of ASCAP The American Society of Composers, Authors and Publishers- Don Richardson Manager of Interscope Records and many more……..

Questions about music management, how to promote your single, what is expected from an Artist were amongst many critical topics that were discussed. This was a super productive networking event for all up and coming Artist, music producers or anyone in the Entertainment business that attended.

  Keith Harrison|ASCAP

Keith Harrison|ASCAP

  With Nikki Walker|Entertainment and Lifestyle PR

With Nikki Walker|Entertainment and Lifestyle PR

Live performances and exclusive interviews were set up for all the groups and single Artist to showcase their work.

  Artist: Jen Jer Ricci| YouTube

Artist: Jen Jer Ricci|YouTube

  Artist: LavishJay|  SoundCloud

Artist: LavishJay| SoundCloud

I would encourage anyone that is in the Entertainment Industry to attend at least once in their life! You will learn a lot, meet amazing and professional people that are active in the industry and really have the opportunity to establish strong relationships to help you grow in your movement.


"Blessed is He who Comes in the Name of the Lord"

These past few days, especially this weekend, God has reminded me once more how wonderful he is.  

I sent a precious, loving mother, grandmother, sister, cousin, friend away to him.  It was such a difficult thing to do.

Psalm 150 was one of her favorites and I can see why.  We need to continue to Praise God in all of his glory when things are good and when things are hard.

Today is the final Sunday of Lent, the start of Holy week, and the first day of Spring.  Jesus arrived to receive her and I believe that she is at peace.

It is so hard to say goodbye to someone you love.  It is so hard to continue your life without them around.  This is why it is so critical to create memories and to live this life on earth with faith and love.

I don't know what I would do without the unconditional love and support from family, friends and you, my followers and supporters.  I received so many DM's, Prayers and wonderful words of encouragement.  I am Blessed and I want to Thank You all for reaching out.  Now, I have to move forward slowly to continue to live my life with God's presence in my heart and his guidance. Hope you do the same. Life is waaayyyy too short.  So live it to the fullest while you still here....


Social Media Behavior = Social Media Personality Which one are you?

ok so I've always been on social media, but since I started blogging and selling my handmade jewelry Kaderique, I've discovered that there are social behaviors that determine personalities. 

1. The Lurker - This is the one that is a very consistent visitor. You can tell that he/she logs on during the bus ride to work, during lunch or late night before heading to bed. To me, this is a loyal fan. Their purpose is pure entertainment. I find the lurker very private and conservative.

2. The Clicker - OMG this one brings me smiles everytime they show up. From time to time, especially on Instagram more than other platforms, this is the one that shows up and like literally 15 posts in a row, do not comment and just bounce!

3. The Looker - They are on all social media platforms at least from what I can experience. These are the ones that like your Facebook page, follow on twitter, Google+ ...but NEVER like, NEVER comment and NEVER share. It's like they are there but just not showing up.

4. The Loner - I think everyone has this social media personality. I mean, that is what social media is all about after all. Each publication is expected to inspire and turn on a spark, thought in your mind.

I don't think I've captured them all...But these are at least the consistent ones I have seen to date. Beware of your social media behavior!




Work Hard...Play Harder...

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What a journey this has been..... Outside of blogging and working on my Handmade Jewelry Kaderique, my Corporate career includes traveling a couple of times a year.  Since I have the platform now to share everything that I love, I figured why not share with you this recent trip with the hopes that I inspire you in some ways to take in any opportunity you may have to pack up, jump on a plane and explore this wonderful world we live in.

My days included pretty much working over 8 hours of the day... jumping from planes to planes ... living in hotels and eating..eating and eating more to keep that energy going. Not your typical vacation right? Well, the truth is, this is not set up to be a 2 weeks vacation. However, everytime I do travel for work, I try my best to take any chance I have to embrace the country where I am.

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So, in between constant meetings and catching up on emails, I do get a chance to enjoy every city I go to and experience their culture.

GERMANY

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One word: Freezing!!!! But one of many places in Europe that I personally love.

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A quick warm breakfast at a local cafe....

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....before the start of a busy day, sets the mood.

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After a long day of walking and talking, a great dinner is much needed.

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THAILAND

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From Germany, headed to Thailand.

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One word: Warm!!!!

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Warm Weather....

....Warm Welcome...Warm mornings!

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and nights!

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At the airport, I always take this pic by this work of art. Silly me!

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INDIA

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The last portion of my journey was in India. 

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The food, the people, the vibrant colors, the glittery decor...there's just nothing not to like about this country!

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These are rose petals! I was skeptical trying them out at first but now I am addicted and looking for a place to buy them.

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Had my first Henna done!

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I love traveling the world since I was a little girl. Now as an adult, I enjoy it even more although super tiring, meeting new people and learning about other cultures always gives me the opportunity to reflect back on my own life.  Found this quote in my hotel room one night and it says "You cannot travel the path until you have become the path itself" - Buddha

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I believe in this 100%. Create your own path so you can understand where you are heading and why you are traveling that way.  If you can dream it, you can achieve it.

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I don't know if I inspired you to go ahead and Pack up! Jump on a Plane! and go Experience this Wonderful World.  If I did? Great! If I did not, hopefully you will change your mind and reach your destination one day.  

I have...

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I am a Working Girl. Are You? Join the Movement.

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"How can you work a regular J-O-B and work on your own business at the same time?"...."You must be working all day everyday right?"...I get asked these questions almost everyday now, especially since I started my own handmade jewelry Kaderique and blogging:"Do you even have time to spend with your kids?"..."How do you do it all?"....Working Girls Only gave me the platform to share my answers to some of these questions. 

I've always considered myself a working girl.

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From focusing in school, attending college, pushing for that Grad school degree, moving up the corporate ladder...my working days have been endless and they are still in existence today.

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I am a working girl for my own business, my kids and my regular job.  I am a mother, a wife, a career woman and an entrepreneur all at the same time. What motivates me are readers, followers like yourself and of course my husband and my kids.

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Every girl is a Working Girl. Whether you have your own business or not, you are a Working Girl. So stay focus, remain humble and keep on.  Get yourself a Working Girls Onlyshirt, hoodie, sweats....all are available Here.

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Photo Credits @young_germain and G50 Productions